Congruent feedback refers to the content, focus and words used in feedback. When feedback is congruent, the given information is directly related to what a person has asked for. It may be useful or not useful, it may be what the other wishes to hear or not, but it is directly related to the question or request. In-congruent feedback, on the other hand, can give information that may be important, but is either not related to the focus, or adds another focus. Some examples:
In-congruent feedback and information does not have much to do with learning how to communicate better, nor with applying some formulated sentences that do not sound authentic, nor with how to lower barriers (of others). The words necessary for congruent responses are (usually) already in the givers' vocabulary and can come out of mouths (or keyboards) authentically once one puts oneself in the shoes of the receiver of the information. In short, it has to do with a lack of empathy, and often also with (perceived) power plays. But what will there be first, the chicken or the egg? One can practice empathy by thinking first, and considering self, other and context before producing feedback (or meta-communication).
Meta-communication (communication about the communication) is the key out of all of these situations. In the case of a true double bind, a third person may be required, but meta-communication is still the key. Something like, “What can you say to me right now that your intonation, body language and facial expression will agree with?”, or just leaving the field as a form of meta-communication (in which case it wasn't a true double bind).
Taking it from gender and roles:
Hence, an all-women team in which women returning to and women starting with programming, can come and play and form their own templates of how to get things done. Other genders also welcome, including men interested in finding other templates.
Native Hawaiian culture acknowledges and respects mahu, those who embody both male and female spirit. Navajo culture recognises and revere nádleehí, two spirits, both a boy and a girl. Everywhere one finds cultures that know and acknowledge more than two genders. Not so in western culture. Even when seemingly doing so, it is a two-sided story, a binary mindset. The use of the word “gay” assumes three things: that there are only two sexes (male/female), two sexualities (gay/straight), and two genders (man/woman).
Gender role is thought to be “a set of expectations associated with the perception of masculinity and femininity.” Meanwhile, sociologists distinguish between masculine cultures and feminine cultures and are bending over backward to explain that the intention of the distinction is not to trigger a strong association with gender-related issues in society. The cultural dimension Masculinity – Femininity supposedly says something about the expected behaviour of men and women in any given society (or project). In more feminine projects for example, there is supposedly more role overlap and more focus on getting things done and less on status and power plays (domination).
Although “gender role” is one of a number of many social roles, it often leads to the perception of gender roles as natural (biologically derived, or historically confirmed, and thus valid). Such an (subconscious or even unconscious) approach contributes to the formation and fixation of other structures: Gender stereotypes and gender projections. In the west this seems to be a long-term problem, perpetuated by patriarchal internalisations and received benefits thereof.
They are indirect. They are passive-aggressive. They are loving and caring no matter what. They give emotional support. They need emotional support.
They are trying to dominate! They are trying to replace us! They are generalising on men! OMG, she's a FEMINIST!
I am not. I am ambitious in that I wish to be part of evolving other templates that work for self, others and context. I agree with Mary Beard, power is a verb, not a noun or attribute. Not a push of will, can't be wielded, not something to be “in” or to “have”. Instead, it can be a verb, associated with solidarity and collaboration, and used to get things done.
Lots of people have told me over time, that anyone can do project management. So what does it involve? In general, it consists of applying “quick fixes” to problems which typically prove to be ineffective and can sometimes produce disastrous side effects. How to make *that* happen?
This old-fashioned horror anthology isn't terrifying or scream-inducing; instead, it's closer in spirit to the moody, clammy, atmospheric English movies of decades past, and parodies thereof. I am again reminded of Dr. Strangelove.
IBM researchers at Black Hat USA 2018 announced their development of DeepLocker, a proof of concept to raise awareness of AI-powered threats, demonstrate how attackers have the capability to build stealthy malware that can circumvent commonly deployed defences, and provide insights into how to reduce risks and deploy adequate countermeasures.
DeepLocker has changed the game of malware evasion by taking a fundamentally different approach from any other current evasive and targeted malware.
Long story short, while a class of malware like DeepLocker has not been seen in the wild to date, these AI tools are publicly available, as are the malware techniques being employed — so it’s only a matter of time before we start seeing these tools combined by adversarial actors.